Frequently Asked Questions

How long does Self Care Coaching take?

Individuals and circumstances vary.

Generally 100 days is long enough for a person to have gained a significant shift in how they feel within themselves, in the world, and in relationships.

In that time a person is likely to begin receiving positive comments from family and others about how they seem more positive, less stressed, more fun, etc.

A second 100 days is useful to solidify and secure the practices and skills so they can continue to grow and adapt to ever changing life circumstances. Getting connected with a range of science based self care resources is part of that process.

Self care is a Way of Life. Some individuals can readily continue developing self care skills on their own. Others may choose to extend the coaching experience or otherwise deepen and extend their learning.

Pre and post tests can be helpful in confirming subjective feelings and quantify the extent to which a person has gained benefit from the coaching experience.

How is coaching different than therapy?

Coaching is basically the opposite of therapy.

Coaching identifies and builds on your strengths. An initial focus is on getting clear on what You value. And then identifying what actions You can realistically take to create the life you truly want to live; as the person you truly want to be.

Coaching is about changes in attitudes and behavior that create major positive changes within yourself, your relationships, and all aspects of your life.

Self Care Coaching includes the use of science based and proven Practices that reduce stress, increase informed self-awareness, and develop key social skills like empathy.

These and other skills are useful in creating the attitudes and actions that enable physical health, emotional balance, thriving relationships, optimism, adaptability, resilience, equanimity, and ultimately create a substantial increase in personal happiness.

Therapy tends to focus on defining what is wrong with you, and why there is something wrong with you, and how you can be “fixed”.

Increasingly, therapy includes the often long-term use of mind-altering medications that may have effects that are not fully understood. What is understood is that psychotropic analgesic drugs do not heal. They ameliorate symptoms. For some individuals, that can be very important. For many others people, the drugs may get in the way of real healing and the kind of effective attitudes and actions that create and sustain meaningful growth.

Therapy has an important place in the world, and is absolutely necessary for some people.

Coaching is the Positive Alternative to therapy.

How do I know coaching will work for me?

You don’t. But you can find out with a three-step process.

Step One:
Gets a sufficient view of the science based evidence concerning any points on which you have a question? E-mail me your question and I can help you identify independent, reliable, and respected resources.

The evidence clearly and abundantly shows that the methods of Positive Psychology (PP) and Emotional Intelligence (EI) are well proven. When systematically practiced they work very well for most people.

The principals and practices of PP & EI are now taught at many of the finest universities in the world including Stanford, University of California, Harvard, University of Pennsylvania, MIT, Duke, etc.

The leading corporations in the world are increasingly using PP & EI to increase Self Care and happiness within an organization. They have recognized that science now clearly shows Self Care practices based on PP & EI have been proven to increase profits by improving productivity, creativity, employee retention, etc.

Step Two:
Ask yourself: “Do I want positive change enough to actually make real world changes in what I am doing ?”
If the answer is a clear “yes”, then coaching will almost certainly work for you. Because, coaching has been proven to be an effective method to creates change.

If you want better results in your life; without making real world changes in what you are actually doing, then coaching is Not for you.

Step Three:
If you responded positively to the first two steps, then ask for a free consultation.
Within an hour you will have learned a lot more about whether the coaching process is right for you.

How do I choose the right coach?

Get a free consultation from three coaches who have developed skills that fit what you need.

For example, you do not want a career coach; if you are a care giver out of balance with a wounded parent, mate, or child. Nor, would you want a productivity focused executive coach; if your goal is to simplify your life, learn how to relax, and just be happier.

You are welcome to e-mail me and I will connect you with some resources for screening and contacting well-qualified coaches.

When would coaching be right for me?

Coaching can be of great benefit when you are feeling out of balance, stuck, or overwhelmed.

It is of particular value when you know what you want to do or change, but do not know how to efficiently and effectively make that change.

And, coaching can be useful when you know a major change is needed, but are not clear what change would really be right.

Good coaches are skilled at enabling a person to get clear on what they Really want to do or change. And then helping you frame a realistic vision, plan, and achievable steps that will create the change you want.

Common coaching topics clients include:

  • Reducing stress and its many symptoms.
  • Balancing work with the essentials of a healthy and happy life.
  • Just want to be happier and don’t know how.
  • Clarifying long-term goals and how to achieve them.
  • Learning to enjoy life; while living with what cannot be changed.
  • Values clarification and life simplification.
  • Successfully managing a major life transition.
  • Personal empowerment, actualization, and liberation.
  • Relationships that healthier, trust based, and more intimate.
  • Being Present to what is good in life; as it is.

What is Self Care Coaching?

Self Care Coaching develops attitudes and practices that enable a person to thrive.

Although there are well proven principals and practices; Self Care Coaching is a very personal process. One size does Not fit all.

Self Care Coaching involves the whole person, integrates values and behavior, and includes having healthy relationships.

Most people do not know what practices would be a good fit for them. A Self Care Coach can help a person select and learn the practices that are most likely to create and sustain a positive outcome.

The coach provides support in many ways including Accountability Partnerships.

Self care sometimes includes a person clarifying what they truly value and enjoy most; and how that does (or does not) fit with what they are actually doing in life.